This is the best tool I know for getting clear around a decision.
I’ve coached myself and friends through it several times this week, so it’s time to share it with you.
I call it a Decision Grid.
HOW TO USE A DECISION GRID:
1. Take a piece of scrap paper, divide it into 4 quadrants.
2. Label them “desire for yes,” “fear of yes,” “desire for no,” and “fear of no.”
3. Use your head, heart, and gut to fill out each of them.
When I do this, I normally can feel where the energy is strongest by the time I finish.
I ask myself, “Am I moving here out of fear/scarcity, or out of excitement/love/trust?”
I try to aim for the latter as much as I can.
Even with scary decisions, if I trust my process is tapping into my higher self/inner wisdom, I know I’ll at least have that to fall back on, no matter how it turns out.
I’ve used this to decide about:
- Whether to sign a counter-offer on a house and go under contract (I chose no.)
- Whether to sign up for a $3000 marketing course (I chose yes.)
- Whether to keep working with a particular client (I chose no.)
Note: Saying no to something I think I “should” say yes is one of the most terrifying and growth-producing things I know how to do in my life.
It’s like launching off a cliff into cold water — a little painful, a lot scary, and usually incredibly invigorating.
It’s what allows space for miracles and grace.
So: Next time you have a decision you’re stuck on, give this a try and let me know how it goes!
PS – I learned this tool — and so much more — from my teacher Juliet Haines Gaia.
This post was originally sent as an email to the Magic Words of the Week newsletter list. Every week, I share reflections on a word, quote, or phrase I think will help you thrive in your life’s work.